Sigh, you ever have one of those songs that just speaks to where your mindset is? Like, you play it on repeat, spin it into sets, remix it to a dub step beat, and consider posting it to facebook because IT JUST SPEAKS TO YOUR ENTIRE LIFE?! yea…. i don’t know about that either…. <looks off to the side>

So I got into Griz a while back when a few friends of mine were touring with him. But I have been revisiting him lately. and PS GFY came on the other day and I have come back to it at least ten times…

 

The lyrics: 

[Verse 1] Now who I am Is exactly who I be Not good enough for you? Go ahead and find a better me! (Uh, yeah!) Now who you are Is exactly what I see That shit is killing my vibe So go on and let me breathe

[Chorus] I know you all too well You talk shit, and love the smell Don’t think that I can’t tell You’re fake and nothing else You should know this well Ain’t trying to wish you ill Hope this life treats you swell Oh yeah, P.S. go fuck yourself!

I meeeeeaaaaaannnnnn and with lyrics like that… yep. Might have been fist pumping in my cube. Because I literally am who I am and what you see is what you get with me where as it seems with a lot of other people… they aren’t what they present to you. It is really frustrating. To me. 

I am all about that whole “live your truth” concept that P!nk talked about a while back at the grammys or wherever famous people talk… and it is SO f-ing true. But… very few people practice it. And when you try living your truth, people tend to try and stop you from doing this, which, ps, is essentially you living your best life… Now. I know what you’re thinking…. why in fuck’s name would a FRIEND try to STOP your from living your best life? 

Fuck, beats the hell outta me… but we all have friends like this… the ones that claim to build you up, but secretly aren’t happy with their own lives and so proceed to try and tear you down… sometimes without them even realizing they’re doing it… meaning it’s non-malicious…. and making it even HARDER to tackle. 

So… how do you handle this kind of friend? I often take the direct approach, with as soft and gentle of a tone as I can muster.. often when I have slept on my feelings and thoughts for a few days so the anger isn’t so fresh. Words hurt, but tone hurts worse. You can say the exact same thing with two different tones and it will be interpreted and mean two completely different things. Nuts, I know. 

Some people try to take a beat around the bush approach, but more times than not, you end up never getting your point across, digging the situation deeper and making it worse and harder to get out. Then you spend hours that you will never get back, hating yourself and others for not managing to be a decent human being and come at someone straight on… as opposed to coming at them sideways… with the beat around the bush shiz, all because you were trying to be nice… I know! It’s CRAY CRAY!

For all of us, though, try being a normal human… k thanks….

In fairness, not everyone has the balls to take the direct approach, but in the end it will save you a lot of time and effort and anguish if you sack up and be direct.

 

With that being said… timing is everything. READ YOUR AUDIENCE. If they are giving you the cold shoulder, they don’t want to talk to you… if they are telling you, they are busy, they don’t want to talk to you…. if they are actively telling you they hate you, let me break this one down for you… THEY DON’T WANT TO TALK TO YOU.  It could mean they don’t want to talk ever, but more than likely if it’s a friend, they don’t want to talk right then for any number of given reasons, and just like YOU want them to respect your wishes, YOU need to respect THEIR wishes…. turnabout and shiz.

So… takeaways:

1. Be direct
2. Timing is important
3. Read your audience
4. Listen to your audience
5. Respect your audience
6. Above all, always do you.

and yknow, get rid of those trash people in your life who are using you or stopping you from living your best life. They are a waste of your time and frankly, they’re a waste of mine too… and they aren’t even in my life LOL.